I have always believed in speaking my mind and standing up for what I believe in. My dad always told me that when in a confrontation with someone "remember that yelling isn't going to get you anywhere". Unfortunately, we didn't get that when we had arguments....lol
When I look at this picture (though I don't really remember it and feel a little disconnected from that kid) I see real determination in my face. I see focus and strength.
Through my years I have had many arguments and confrontations with people in my life and those I had never met before. They usually ended up very heated with lots of name calling and cheap shots. I like to think that something in me changed these last few years. I don't know if it was the cancer diagnosis or just growing and having a better understanding.
Today whenever I am faced with these "tests" in life I recognise that this is an opportunity for me to grow. Instead of thinking I'm shifting into defence mode.
Case in point: (whoo I feel like a lawyer) LOL.
I was on the bus today heading home from work. It wasn't packed but busy enough that I got one one of the last few seats. At the next stop a woman got on with her two young children (maybe 4 and 7). Her and her daughter sat together and son across. I gave up my seat for her son and stood instead. This whole time there was a man (maybe 58) seating alone. He was drinking a can of beer and in between his singing, he was complaining about being an immigrant from Costa Rica and women in an extremely aggressive way. Every 6 words were F bombs. I listened to it. Along with everyone else who didn't say anything. But that only lasted 3 stops in. I calmly in a loud voice said "excuse me sir, can you please be quite there's children on the bus" to with he responded "why don't you just F off". I took a deep breathe while all eyes are now on me and they were likely thinking "you idiot". Then he started talking about women and sex and F every word now. I had enough. I always say what I am thinking. I got up and walked over to him. I said "sir there are young children on this bus and frankly I have had a hard day at work and I don't want to hear it" He: "what are you a politician"...LOL I: "sir, can I suggest you get off the bus" He continues to swear etc... I said "sir please get off the bus. He stood up told me where to go and got off the bus.
I walked back to my seat, sat down and smiled to myself. I did it! I passed the test.......
When I was getting off the bus. I noticed that two Japanese guys were sitting there looking at me and talking. So I smiled. They flexed there muscles, gave me a thumbs up and smiled back. I knew then, I did the right thing.
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